Magic is a difficult word to work with, depending on you upbringing you might associate magic with crazy people, or quacks, or illusionists or priests and shamans of different religions, but I’m not here to discuss if magic is real or not, that is up to you to decide, what I want is to show you how to use magic as a form of self-hypnosis and how to create your own personal rituals to motivate change and self-growth.
For many the word “Hypnosis” is associated with parlor tricks, snake oil salesman and deceit, but in truth, hypnosis is a psychological state that has been extensively studied by psychologists worldwide and if used correctly it carries some amazing benefits for individuals, but in order to use it at its best we need to understand it and for that, I’m here to dispel some modern Myths about Hypnosis.
You might remember those little blue guys from that incredibly old cartoon, or maybe you were one of the unlucky ones who got to see the new movie, either way, I have to ask you, do you feel threatened by a Smurf?, probably not, those cuddly high pitched voice creatures are as frightening as a teddy bear. The Smurf is a technique that I learnt while working in negotiations in the corporate world; it’s about changing your perceptions of someone to make them more approachable, and the best part of it, Is that it takes almost no effort and can be done in an instant.
Change is a funny thing; we are told that we have to make an effort to change our lives, that all we need is discipline or willpower and things will eventually be how we want them, this may be true for some things like creating a habit or eradicating minor behaviors, but most of the time we are resistant to change, we don’t like it, this is because our brains like to keep things the way they are, its motto is “if it ain’t broken why fix it?”. But interestingly enough there is a way to fool our brains, and that is, to completely ignore the issue, this is called the paradox of change.
The first thing you might wonder is: Why is there a post about meditation in a self-hypnosis blog?, well, you’d be surprised to know just how related these two practices are, they both deal with achieving a certain state of consciousness through patterns and exercises, and furthermore, learning how to meditate and how to clear your mind will help you tremendously when you try to apply some self-hypnosis.
Psychoanalysis, Analytical psychology, Gestalt therapy and many other modern and popular therapeutic practices consider that our dreams are a gateway to our subconscious thoughts, when we sleep our conscious mind goes “off-line” and our inner world takes precedence, as such, our subconscious becomes more susceptible to suggestions as there aren’t any rational thoughts or defense mechanisms standing in the way, for this reason, self-hypnosis and sleep are closely intertwined, we can easily create or reinforce suggestions while we sleep.
If you have read about NLP then you must have already stumbled upon this concept, for those who haven’t, Anchors are associations between two stimuli presented together, for example, you cannot listen to “eye of the tiger” without immediately thinking of the movie Rocky, for decades publicity has used this trick to subconsciously program us to relate certain products to colors, experiences, and even emotions.
Here is a great pattern for those who want an extra oomph of confidence or go-to attitude at your disposal with just a finger gesture, what we are going to do is create an anchor with some of your best feelings so you can evoke them when you need them most, first read this post a couple of times and practice the exercise in your mind, once you feel like you`ve got it, go do it in a relaxing place, don`t worry if you make a mistake, what’s important is your intent, this confidence boosting pattern is called “the ring of fire”.
Remember back when you were little?, wasn’t the world a magical place full of possibilities, you could be anything or be anywhere just by closing your eyes and willing it. And then, sometime around puberty we forgot all about this wonderful power, actually, we found it embarrassing so instead of nurturing it, we sealed it away in a box, never to be touched again as “real life” demands way too much commitment to be part of a land of dreams. Well, I’ m here to tell you that is time to open that box again, because imagination as a tool for self-hypnosis is about as powerful as it gets.
One of the worst things that can happen to a therapist is being terrible with names and faces, just imagine sitting there uncomfortably, being unable to recall what’s your clients name, or even if you’ve worked with that person before, it used to happen to me all the time, but fortunately I found a way around it, a technique called “a house of memories” and it’s a great tool when there are a lot of things you want to remember but have problems doing so.